Boundaries are Healthy

ThiAndrew Martins one goes out to my fellow Entrepreneurs/ Lightworkers/healers/Intutives/teachers/empaths/starseeds/energyworkers/shamans and anyone else who walks the path of service or has a hard time saying “no”.
Boundaries are healthy. Saying “no” is OK. You don’t owe anyone anything.
As an intuitive, empathic, compassionate person this has taken me a long time to learn. I had the “disease to please” for years.
My ability to sense the feelings and energies of others coupled with my soul’s choice to be of service in this lifetime has often created conflict within me when it comes to saying no to people who are seeking support. I have an innate desire to help others. I’ve had to learn how to help others without it coming at the expense of my own well being. Among other things, this has included becoming OK with turning down the numerous messages I get from people wanting answers or insights or healing over email. The work that I do requires a lot more time and space than an email exchange provides. I charge for my work because I value and respect myself. I know that one day we will live in a society where money isn’t required. And until that day comes, money is still required. I spend hours and hours creating content for free or for very cheap. I do my best to ensure that money isn’t a barrier to accessing the work I offer. I wish I could help everyone who asks. But my job is not to help everyone, my job is to help the people I can help.
The truth is that healthy boundaries are necessary for me to be able to do the work that I do. I can’t pour from an empty cup.
My work is built upon my willingness to be open and transparent about my own path and my own journey. I share a lot with people through my work and I love that I am able to do it this way. However that doesn’t mean that I don’t also keep parts of myself and my personal life private. (The irony of sharing this personal post on a very public forum is not lost on me ) It took me a long time to create boundaries that are healthy. Boundaries that allow me to serve myself first so that I can show up fully able to be of service to others when called to.
So what’s the point of this posting? This journey that we have labeled “ascension” is about many things. One thing that we are all tasked with learning (especially in this current energetic passage) is how to create a life for ourselves that feels healthy and honest and true. That requires boundaries. Yes, we are infinite, powerful, creators. And we have chosen to come experience that truth through a finite, human, chapter of experience. Andrew will some day die, but the truth of who I am within the experience of Andrew is eternal. The eternal part that I am doesn’t need boundaries, but Andrew certainly does. That’s the big question: How do I balance my limitlessness within the human experience where limitations are part of the deal? How do I push the previously conceived boundaries of what is possible within the human experience and grow beyond them? I do that by creating healthy boundaries.
So don’t ever feel guilty for asserting yourself. Don’t let the projections of another make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. Don’t let the BS belief that somehow spiritual people shouldn’t charge money for what they do seduce you into thinking that there’s something wrong with money or wanting to get paid for your work. Don’t let another’s lack of boundaries or refusal to take no for an answer push you to doubt your own truth. Trust your gut, trust your heart, trust your knowing. You are the only one who knows what truth feels like. The sacred “no” is a powerful tool. Sometimes saying “yes” to yourself requires you saying “no”. And there is nothing unspiritual about that at all.



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